Daughter Francesca Archives – Lisa Scottoline

Take My Advice

May 3, 2026

By Lisa Scottoline

There have been 3 stages in my life.

Childhood, divorce, and advice.

Each one has been terrific.

Let me explain.

I had a great childhood.

My parents adored me, and all I did was go outside and play.

The only screens were on doors.

My mother would tell me, “Stop reading, it will ruin your eyes.”

She was right.

And wrong.

There followed two marriages, to Thing One, and Thing Two.

The good news is that my first marriage produced my amazing daughter Francesca.

The other good news is that divorce exists.

The other day I read a news story about a Florida woman who killed both of her ex-husbands in the same day. When the police came to arrest her for murder, she asked, “Which one?”

Too dark?

Now we come to the present stage, which is advice.

I say this now because a nice thing is happening to me this week.

I’m getting an award from International Thriller Writers called ThrillerMaster, which is basically a lifetime achievement award.

Wow?

Who knew?

I never thought I’d ever even get published and here I am, forty books later.So there are interviews asking me for advice for up-and-coming writers.

Notice I did not say younger.

Because one piece of wisdom is that nothing is about age.

You can write a book at any time.

In fact, Allen Levi was in his late sixties when he wrote Theo of Golden, the mega-bestseller that was his first book.

Actually he’s the one we should be asking for advice.

Anyway what’s happening with me is that the interviewer usually asks, “What is the one piece of advice you would give?”

And I can’t narrow it down.

I am full of advice.

I have so much advice, it’s coming out of my ears.

I’m not saying it’s all good.

It might be bad.

It’s based on mistakes I made.

The more mistakes you make, the more advice you have.

So look on the bright side, when you file for divorce.

You’re just racking up advice.

It’s called experience.

Nowadays we call it lived experience, which I like because I think we don’t pay enough attention to people and what they learn from their lives.

You shouldn’t need a lifetime achievement award to be asked advice.

Everyone who’s lived a lifetime can give advice.

The irony is that as people get older in this culture, we tend to listen to them less, not more.

Mother’s Day is upon us, and the best advice I ever got was from Mother Mary.

Like, Be Yourself.

So maybe on Mother’s Day, take your mom to dinner and ask her for advice.

She might answer, Eat your vegetables.

By the way, that’s excellent advice.

Nowadays there are diet doctors who sell books about plant-based diets, which is what your mother has been telling you for your whole life, for free.

And maybe you have some advice too.

I really think all of us are so thoughtful and have so much more to say than people give us credit for.

Like Daughter Francesca has given me excellent advice, and much of it I’ve followed. Even little things like, thanks to her, I’m going to the gym now and I started lifting weights.

Me?

I have a great trainer who has an array of barbells, ropes, kettleballs, and elastic bands.

He’s like Felix with his Bag of Tricks.

And for half an hour, I do whatever he says.

It’s not a power I’ve ever given to any man before.

And I don’t intend to make a habit of it, other than my trainer.

But you know what, I’m learning.

That’s my best advice of all.

Keep learning.

Stay strong.

Not every weight is a burden.

And I bet you can lift it if you try.

Classic Column: Which Spices Would You Take To a Kitchen Island?

April 19, 2026

By Lisa Scottoline

There’s nothing like home improvement to improve your life.

At least, not in theory.

I say this because I’m adding a garden room to my house, even though I don’t even know if that’s a thing, because I have a garden and I want a room in front of it so I can see it through the window.

Like TV, only without Andy Cohen.

The garden room is attached to the kitchen and since it needed a door, the oven and cabinets had to be moved, and in any event, you see where this is going. Adding a garden room meant that the kitchen got remodeled. Because the thighbone is connected to the leg bone and the leg bone is connected to the wallet.

Anybody who’s ever started home improvement knows that as soon as you improve one thing, you have to improve other things, so that everything is New and Improved, like detergent, only much more costly.

But I’m not complaining.

I feel lucky to be able to make these changes, and since I work at home, I’m spending 24/7 on the premises, I want to premises to suit me. And while we’re turning that frown upside down, let me add that since I’m still terribly single, it’s great to have everything exactly the way I want.

Finally.

And then I’ll die.

My epitaph will read:

HERE LIES LISA SCOTTOLINE

DID SHE IMPROVE ENOUGH?

To stay on point, remodeling the kitchen means that I’m starting to look hard at my priorities, namely, spices. Please tell me that I’m not on the only woman who owns approximately 75,932 spices, accumulated over decades, and that the spices are dusted off every decade, which is the only time they’re even touched.

I’m looking at you, cardamom.

How this came about is that when I moved the oven, I lost the shelf above it, which is where I kept the aforementioned spices, and that meant that I had to find the spices a new home or concede the obvious and throw them out.

So I began to cast a skeptical eye at my spice rack.

And it took me on a tour of my own life.

Let’s begin with Marriage Rookie Enthusiasm.

In that time period of my life, I had just married Thing Two, my daughter Francesca was young and I had two stepdaughters living at home. I wanted to be not only the best mother of all time, but also the best stepmother, so I instantly bought American Mom spices, which you use when you bake apple pie. You know the autumnal array of allspice, cinnamon, nutmeg, and cloves.

To make a long story short, I made exactly one apple pie.

Divorce ensued, but I got custody of the spices.

Then it was just Francesca and me, and being Italian-American, I decided that I was going to make homemade tomato sauce, or gravy. Mother Mary made the best gravy ever, but she refused to give me the recipe because I was a lawyer.

Don’t ask.

I watched her do it and she always used onion salt, garlic salt, salt salt, and extra salt.

No fresh spices were involved.

Yet it was delicious.

Still I could never make gravy as good as she did, and in time I gave up, though I still have the garlic salt. I feel certain that Mother Mary approves, smiling down from heaven and hoping that the garlic salt has solidified into a sodium bullet.

The next stage of my spice life was Francesca going to college, and that was when I decided I wasn’t going to act mopey because I was an empty nester, and believe me, I got over that fast.

LOL.

But in spice terms, that was the time of my Indian Awakening, an idea I got from a Williams Sonoma catalog. I bought every Indian spice known to man, extending well beyond starter curry into garam masala, turmeric, and vadouvan. They came in round pots full of orange and yellow powders, like nightmare blusher.

These were the coolest spices ever, but I never looked at them again because as an empty nester, I stopped cooking altogether.

Which was coolest of all.

This brings us to the present day, when the only spices I use are salt and pepper.

They require neither shelf, rack, nor cabinet.

They’re sitting alone together on the kitchen island, like survivors of a suburban shipwreck.

Where they’ll stay until the next Williams Sonoma catalog comes in the mail.

Puppy Envy

April 12, 2026

By Lisa Scottoline

I’ve been dog-sitting Daughter Francesca’s dog Bobby.

And it’s created a problem.

Because I like Bobby better than my dog Eve.

Just kidding.

Kinda.

Let me explain.

Bobby and Eve are Cavalier King Charles Spaniels, a tri-color and a Blenheim respectively, and they’re both about a year and a half years old. Francesca and I are besties, so the dogs are besties, and they love playing together.

But this last visit, I could see that Bobby is the model child.

Guess who’s the problem child.

Eve/Evil.

Bobby is personality plus. He’s always in a great mood, he’s friendly to other people and dogs, and he loves to cuddle.

I mean, really cuddle.

Anytime I sit down, he sits right beside me.

If I stretch out on the floor to read or watch TV, he comes over and rests his head on my shoulder.

When I go to sleep at night, he cuddles on my pillow or sleeps with his neck on mine.

I know that sounds crazy, but I love it.

In winter, my neck was nice and toasty.

And I could feel his little heartbeat.

I slept better than ever, like he was furry Ambien.

In contrast, Eve always sleeps at the foot of the bed.

I pull her up to get her to sleep near me, but she won’t have any.

She likes lying on my feet, which means I can’t move.

And she barks to wake me up at 6:00 in the morning.

Meanwhile I don’t have to get up until 7:30.

I am my own boss.

My office is downstairs.

When Eve barks that early, Bobby will lazily open one eye. He’s in no hurry to leave our pillow paradise, either.

Then he’ll lick my face, endlessly.

Yes, we make out.

He’s my Employee of the Month.

He deserves a bonus — or a bone.

Honestly, this is my kind of dog.

Only he’s not my dog.

By the way, Eve chews rugs, furniture, and wooden baseboards.

Bobby chews nothing but food.

His only bad habit is that he will find a sneaker, carry it around, and hide it somewhere. It takes a while for me to find both sneakers.

Do I mind?

No, it’s fun!

Eve and Bobby are the Goofus and Gallant of dogs.

The dogs are from the same breeder, who told us, “female dogs love you, but male dogs fall in love with you.”

Before, I thought that sounded gendered.

And I worried that Eve was getting the bitch edit, literally.

But it’s true, of these two.

In the end, one is sugar and one is spice.

But if I could, would I trade Eve for Bobby?

Not really.

Eve is my sassy, spicy, bossy little girl.

She might even be me in dog form.

Adorable!

Just in her own way.

Queen of the One-Liners

April 5, 2026

By Lisa Scottoline

My mother passed away on Palm Sunday about ten years ago, and I always think about her around now, not in a sad way, but in a way that makes me smile.

Maybe the following will make you smile, too.

Because Mother Mary’s last days were everything I would’ve wanted for her, complete with her salty brand of humor. She had congestive heart failure, which is surprising for someone with so much heart, and she entered hospice at my house, with my Brother Frank and Daughter Francesca with her.

I’m sure many of you have been through hospice with people you love, so you know what a uniquely terrifying and heartbreaking time it can be. But at the same time, what happened for my mother was glorious, and in many ways, a reflection of the way she lived her life.

None of us knew how long she would live, but she was in pretty great spirits and no pain. So we set up a bed in the living room, but she didn’t need to lie in it and generally walked around the house or plopped on the couch in front of the TV, which was her favorite position.

Mine, too.

We invited friends of hers to come over, and since she hadn’t lived in the Philadelphia area for many years, they showed up in force. Everyone brought food, flowers, and good cheer, and we felt as if we were hosting a very unique sort of party every day, one that was especially meaningful to her.

Then guess what.

She got a second wind.

And a second month.

Mother Mary always loved a good time, and she reconnected with everybody she loved, among them a son from a previous marriage for whom she had been estranged almost all of her life. He was kind enough to come over and spend time with her, too, and the reunion did all of our hearts good.

Hers, especially.

As time went on, her throat became more strained and she couldn’t talk, so she wrote on a greaseboard. The first question any friend asked her was, “How are you?”

To which she would always write: “Outside of all this crap, I’m doing fine.”

I took a picture of her sentence above, and I love seeing it, especially now.

My mother wasn’t the type to give a lot of advice in sit-down lectures. But she had a lot to say and fired off lines like that all the time.

Jokes that made me laugh, then think.

And those quips told everything about her.

Think of the courage it takes to write that sentence.

And at that point, she was dying.

She went from no pain to no picnic in no time.

We were swabbing her throat with sponge lollipops.

But the way she lived her life was to set aside all that crap, and do fine.

By an act of sheer will.

Wow!

I remember that line when I’m having a hard time, or when I’m seeing my country go through hard times.

Dying can teach us so much about living.

Outside of all this crap, we’re doing fine.

So I honor her this week, which is so much about rebirth in Spring, and on Easter, which signifies resurrection for the Christian world.

Mother Mary’s spirit lives on, undefeated.

Brave.

Proud.

Happy.

So does ours.

We Want To Pump You Up

March 29, 2026

By Lisa Scottoline

Well, it happened.

I joined a gym.

It was a New Year’s resolution and it’s almost April.

I finally got started because I was on a plane and I couldn’t lift my bag into the overhead.

I tried to, but it fell back down.

Then another woman tried to help, and neither of us could get it up there.

I was doing yoga at the time, via zoom, and I loved it, but my cardiologist told me that I needed to do weight-bearing exercises.

Agree, because I can’t bear my own weight.

My other impetus was Daughter Francesca, who joined a gym in New York City and goes three days a week. She’s gotten superfit, and she’s lifting all sorts of weights, plus doing squat thrusts and Bulgarian whatevers.

And she told me, “Mom, you can do it, too!”

Please tell me I’m not the only mother trying to impress her daughter.

Who raised this kid?

In any event, to return to point, I just got back from meeting my trainer.

He’s 28 and he looks 14.

He’s handsome, but that doesn’t matter to me anymore because I didn’t even wash my hair.

I hope he doesn’t read this.

First, we met in his office at the gym, and he asked me what my goals were.

I did not say, to meet and marry Bradley Cooper.

I was trying to be professional.

So I get said to get stronger and that I would love to use those weight machines like Nautilus, back in the old days.

And he said, “Well, those machines isolate only one muscle group.”

And I said, “I know, I would like to isolate as few muscle groups as possible.”

Actually I used to love those Nautilus machines because you did the exercises sitting down.

I’m great with exercises you do sitting down.

I’m even better with exercises you do eating popcorn.

Not to brag, but I’m great at multitasking.

Sitting and eating is my superpower.

I can also walk and eat.

In fact, I have a treadmill desk and I used to eat popcorn on it while I worked. The dogs learned to sit at the end of the treadmill and get the popcorn I dropped delivered to their mouth like a conveyor belt.

Good times.

But that was then and this is now.

So my trainer devised a series of exercises for me, and I did them so he could watch me and see how bad things were.

The answer is real bad.

I don’t know what any of the exercises are called, but I did one exercise which was lunging on one side of my body, with my knee touching the floor.

But I had a hard time getting up again.

In front of everybody else at the gym.

At least I was wearing a bra.

I put it on special for the occasion.

I almost took it off in the car.

But I waited until I got home.

The other exercise was squatting, so I suppose it was called a squat.

Impressed?

Anyway I squatted the way he told me to, sticking my butt out and stretching my arms forward, but I couldn’t get up and down without grunting very loudly.

People looked over.

And then I had to do something called Farmer’s Carry, which was taking weights in each hand and walking around, like you live on a farm.

Okay, you think this sounds easy?

It’s not.

My hat is off to farmers everywhere.

I did it, but by the end I was huffing and puffing.

What’s funny is, I actually do live on a farm.

So the way I look at it, anything I carry is a Farmer’s Carry.

Even a Snickers bar.

Classic Column: Technology Hag

March 1, 2026

By Lisa Scottoline

I’m not old, but I’m getting older.

I know this because of technology.

Meanwhile, where do I even begin with the story?

Let’s start with the time a few months ago, when I trip over a dog gate, go flying, and can’t walk.

I’ve been hobbling around since then.

Seriously, I’m bent over like the old witch in Snow White. Plus I have stringy gray hair and a big nose.

All I need is the carbuncle.

Oh, wait.

Never mind.

Check.

But not the point herein.

I hobble around for about three weeks, barely able to straighten up, much less sit or drive, and so I finally get my butt to an orthopedist, who takes an MRI and tells me that I have a labral tear in my hip.

At first I thought I heard him wrong.

I didn’t think my labral was in my hip.

I got it mixed up with another body part, which should give you an idea of how good I was at sex.

Kind of not very.

But honestly, who cares anyway?

I’m great at writing!

Anyway, it turns out that a labral tear is a tear in the ligament that’s somewhere in your hip joint, and when I leave the doctor’s office, he gives me a DVD of my MRI.

Like a party favor for the middle-aged.

I take it home, and the first thing I want to do is look at my MRI.

Which is when I realized that I don’t have a DVD player in any of my computers.

What?

I don’t even know when that happened.

I seem to remember that I got new computers a year or so ago, because I like to have a nice big screen. And I don’t mind spending the money, because all I do all day is stare at a computer, and the least I can do is have a nice one. But I never really noticed that they didn’t have a slot for a DVD player.

So I went over to my big TV, figuring that I could watch my MRI on TV, like a medical reality show, maybe one called, YOUR LABRAL ISN’T WHAT YOU THINK IT IS

I managed to locate my DVD player underneath the TV, but it needed to be hooked up, since I am addicted to Netflix and haven’t watched a real DVD in a long time. It took me a full hour of struggling to hook it up, and even then, I couldn’t get it to work.

Which is when it struck me.

I am so ancient that I have lived through several stages of technology, like the Jurassic and Pleistocene era of dinosaurs.

I remember when there were VHS tapes because I still have them.

I remember when there were camcorders because I filmed Francesca when she was a baby, plus static scenes of my feet, with me saying, “Is this thing on or off?”

Now I have lived through DVDs, which sucks, because I have an entire set of operas in DVD that I was saving to watch in my retirement, and by the time I retire, operas will be transported telepathically into your brain.

Plus I paid to have those camcorder tapes of Francesca transferred onto DVD’s, and now there’s no such thing as DVD players.

So you’re getting a fairly complete picture of what life is like as me, which I’m hoping is like life as you, too.

Who here remembers actual records?

I do.

Who remembers little 33’s?

I do.

Who remembers cassette tapes?

I do.

How about trying to rewind them and having them unspool out of the slot like brown tinsel?

I know. Me too.

So there you have it. Many of us live a life measured in obsolete technological stages.

It’s enough to make your hip hurt.

Post-Holidaze

January 11, 2026January 11, 2026

By Lisa Scottoline

We have our phones with us all the time, but here’s the thing:

You can’t call anybody.

Or you can, but they won’t answer.

I say this because I tried to call my bank the other day, but no one picked up. It rang and rang.

Then I called my car dealership, and the same thing happened.

I’m feeling like no one answers the phone anymore.

And if you look on a website to see how to call them on the phone, there won’t be any number.

They used to say Contact Us, but they lied.

I remember when you could call a company and somebody would pick up the phone. It might not be a person, but it would be a message machine with options one through 7. You’d pick one, wait while music played, then a message would come on and say, “Your call is important to us. Please wait.”

Now, the jig is up.

They’re not even bothering with a mechanical message.

You would think that they could put on a fake voice to tell me how much I matter.

This would be my second marriage in a nutshell.

To return to point, the one bright spot was on Christmas Eve.

No, not that bright spot.

We’re not talking the Star-of-Bethlehem bright.

It was Michael’s.

Yes, the crafts store.

Actually to call Michael’s a craft store is to sell it short. Michael’s sells decorations, art supplies, glue, picture frames, and glittery stuff that you didn’t think you needed until you saw it in its vast store. Also there are rows of candy bars, and I always treat myself to a Snickers.

In our family, the holidays mean a trip to Michael’s to get stuff for the tree, and we even bring the two dogs. We all had a great time there, and I treated myself to a Snickers. Daughter Francesca is our tree designer and she picked out the items we needed, among them a spray can of fake snow.

When you spray a tree with fake snow, it’s called flocking.

Who knew?

You have to hang sheets on the walls so you don’t have an interior blizzard.

Otherwise you’re flocked.

Anyway when we got home it turned out that we’d left a bag on the counter.

This is the problem when you go shopping during the holidays with two dogs. You get distracted by the holidays and the dogs.

Okay, you get distracted by the Snickers, but that’s neither here nor there.

So I called Michael’s.

Guess what happened:

They answered!

A human being!

Wow! I felt like I had entered a portal to an alternative universe or maybe the 1950s. I actually said, “You answered!”

And the man said, “Of course.”

So I told him, “Do you realize that no one answers the phone anymore?”

“I know, but here at Michael’s, we always answer the phone.”

And I thought, I might be in love with you.

But I didn’t say that.

And the next thing that happened was even greater, because he said he would look for our bag, which he actually did and then called me back because he could not find it. So I went to the store anyway to rebuy the missing stuff and Michael’s didn’t even charge me twice. They just swapped it out for the stuff that I left behind in my Snickers haze.

And so on Christmas Eve, my faith in corporate America was restored.

A miracle!

Naughty or Nice?

December 21, 2025

By Lisa Scottoline

It’s the time of year when it we find out whether you’ve been bad or good.

Unfortunately, my little puppy Eve has been Evil.

She’s a year old now, so her personality has shown itself, and it ain’t pretty.

Simply put, she’s an total alpha female.

Or more accurately, a boss bitch.

Let’s begin with the fact that she doesn’t like to walk.

In fact, she doesn’t like to leave the couch.

As soon as I get the leash, she throws herself on the ground and refuses to move.

With one exception.

If I ask, “Wanna go in the car?” Then she jumps off the couch and runs over for her leash.

As in, she knows car.

She wants to Uber around the block.

I think a sedan chair would work, too.

She basically doesn’t want her feet to touch the ground.

What woman does?

Don’t worry, there’s nothing physically wrong with her. I took her to the vet, and the diagnosis is that she’s a princess.

And that’s not all.

She doesn’t eat out of a bowl.

At first I thought the problem was her food, so I did the whole thing where you order various overpriced ipsy-pipsy dog meals they ship to you, which involves defrosting, cleaning dishes, and special containers.

But she still didn’t eat.

Then one day I happened to drop some kibble on the floor and she started eating.

Which is when I realized that she likes to eat off the floor.

Now, I have to throw her kibble on the kitchen floor to get her to eat.

This isn’t a problem except that she leaves a fine grit of chicken byproducts.

After every meal, I Dirt-Devil the floor.

Because of my dirty devil.

You haven’t lived until you’ve walked in bare feet and ended up with Purina Pro Plan between your toes.

And if your feet are as dry as mine, you’ll end up with kibble in your heel cracks, which guarantees you’ll be single forever.

The other thing about Eve is that she does not play well with others.

I took her to puppy obedience school, and she graduated, but she’s socially awkward. If she sees another dog on a walk, she barks nonstop at them, which is her way saying hello.

It never works.

Other dogs avoid her.

Yesterday she scared off a German Shepherd.

Or gave him a headache.

As far as people go, she’s picky. She loves Daughter Francesca, me, and a few other of my girlfriends, but she can’t be bothered with strangers we meet. She lets them pet her, but she’ll stand there.

She doesn’t wag her tail.

She checks her watch.

She’s rude.

And it’s awkward.

But randomly, she likes workmen.

Any carpenter, electrician, or plumber who comes over, she flirts like crazy.

Who doesn’t love a man in uniform?

She sees that jumpsuit and she jumps.

Yesterday I had a burglar alarm guy over, and Eve climbed into his lap and wouldn’t move.

Meanwhile she won’t sit on my lap.

She’s supposed to be a lap dog, but evidently it has to be a lap with benefits.

So when it comes to the question whether Eve is Naughty or Nice, I guess I have to say Naughty.

But I love her anyway, which if you ask me, is the point of the holiday season.

Let’s not get all judgy.

There’s too much of that going around lately, and we all need a little more acceptance.

Understanding, even forgiveness.

I love Eve for the little dog she turned out to be.

And that’s Nice.

Happy Holidays!

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